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Sunday, July 15, 2012

Top 5 Regrets on Your Deathbed

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

A Prayer for Help in Difficult Times

Lord  , I  give   thanks  to  You  in  all   things ,

because  I  know  that  You  reigh  in  the midst of them.

I  know  that  when  I pass  through   the waters,

You  will  be with me and  the river  will  not,

flow  over  me  when  I  walk  through  the fire,

I  will   not  be burned  ,  Nor  will  the  flame  touch me.

( Isaiah 43 -1-2)


That's  because  You  are  a   good  God  and  have,

Sent   Your  Holy  Spirit  to  be my  Comforter  and  ,

Helper   in  the  midst  of   difficult  times.

Lord,  I wait  for  You today.

I  put  my  hope  in  Your  Word  and  ask  that  You,

would   fill   me  afresh  with  Your  Holy  Spirit  and,

wash   away   all  anxiety  or doubt.

Shine   Your  light  into  any dark   corner  of   my soul,

that  needs  to  be exposed...


I  don't   want  my impatience  or lack   of  trust  to  stand,

in  the  way  of   all   You desire  to do  in  my  life  at this time.


I  realzie   that  no matter  how  difficult  life  gets,

as  long   as  I cling  to  You  I am  moving  forward,

on  the  path  you  have  for me.

Help  me to  wait  on  You  and  not  grow  impatient,

with  my  circumstances  simply  because  my  timetable,

does  not  coincide  with  Yours.


Help   me  to understand   Your   ways  and  not,

give  in  to  discouragement.


Strengthen  my  faith  to depen  on Your  Perfect ,

timing   for  my life , Help  me to  rest in  You  and,

to  know that  my   circumstances  is  in your  Holy  hands,

At  the  same  time , I ask  you  to  heal, restore, redeem,

transform  and   bring  new  life  to  my  situation.


Teach  me  what  I need  to  learn  and help  me  get,

beyond   this  time  successfully  so  I  can rise  above,

the  storm  to Your  place  of   perfect  Peace.




When  evening  comes  the  shadows  grow,

as   the  sun  begins   to set.

Take  care  that  you  don't  come  to  know ,

a  thing  that's  called   regret,

Not   what  you  try  or what  you  do,

throughout   a   carefree  youth.

It's   what  you don't  you'll  come  to rue,

when  time  reveals  it's  truth.

There   is   wisdom  to  be  had  from  mistaken  words

and   acts,  You'll   find   that  failure's  not  so bad,

it  strengthens   you  in  fact.

Rejection's  fear  or   the  fear  of   failure  that paralizes you.

Is  the  stuff  of   tears  and   that  which keeps  you.

dreams  from  coming  true.


It  takes  a  certain   kind   of   nerve  to ,

to  tell   someone   you   care.

But  then  nature  tends  to  serve  the person  who,

would  dare....

Bravery   isn't   something  you  can  cultivate from seed.

It must  be  conjured   up  anew  wach time  that  there's,

a  need....


So take   these   words   and hold   them  close,

it's  certain   you'll    find   that  one  second  of  courage,

to  speak  from  the  heart  will result  in  you hearing,

them  back.

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